My husband hasn’t been home much, he’s working long hours. I do however get to hear his wonderful alarm clock go off for an hour before he actually leaves for work….something about needing to hit the snooze button to wake up…mostly I just pull the blanket over my head and let him get on with what works.
Sometimes he leaves the radio playing a little longer and I catch a song that stays in my head, this morning it was Brave by Sara Bareilles. It stands out because the words are thoughtful, while most radio music is repetitive and mind numbing.
You can be amazing
You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug
You can be the outcast
Or be the backlash of somebody’s lack of love
Or you can start speaking up
It made me think about blogging, the vast amount of diversity and wisdom on-line, the connection that we are all longing for, the meaning to our lives. It always comes down to a choice about who we want to be and how we feed that part of us.
The song goes on to say that you’re better off being authentic with your words than choking them back, it hurts more to keep yourself hidden and closed off. I love this, it all about who I am and what I want out of life.
Some people hate to see socks with sandals, others despise poor grammar, for me it has been the polite “How are you?” or “How’s it going?” we use in greeting each other. We’ve been trained to say “Fine” or “Good” anything more is shocking and unexpected. We are not trained to really listen to others even though we are trained to ask.
This has been one of my biggest bugaboos since I was a child. Why fake what you feel? I began to notice it in the fourth grade, there was a deadening of authenticity. I also began to notice the adults were not honest in how they were feeling as well. School was a mix of sensory systems that didn’t always mesh with subtle energy patterns.
There is no difference between you and me, we’ve all been there, made the choice to be safe (hidden) or bold (authentic). Some of us hold our words back, our light back, our anger, our joy, our real face mostly out of fear for what someone might think.
We were taught this was polite, but really can we ever embrace who we are by behaving in this way?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don’t you tell them the truth?
It’s not always easy to do, but I really believe words shouldn’t be empty if you can help it. That doesn’t mean you have a license to be unkind just because you are having a bad day. First, is it true? Then, is it necessary? Most of all is it kind? This takes work, real honesty and authenticity is work and it’s not about anyone else but yourself…go on show us how big your brave is 🙂