We’re connected, as women. It’s like a spiderweb.
If one part of that web vibrates, if there’s trouble,
we all know it, but most of the time we’re just too scared,
or selfish, or insecure to help.
But if we don’t help each other, who will?
~ Sarah Addison Allen
I found a quote today, you could substitute the word ‘women’ for ‘people’ and turn it into a human idea, rather a women idea, the sentiment would be the same. As a western culture, we forget that we’re all connected, it could be that we have so much space, especially in Canada. It could be that we’ve lost the sense of close community in the name of progress. We forget that we aren’t an island unto ourselves, that what we do, say, buy effects many. With our cell phones and i-pods we walk down the street forgetting to make connection, even though it’s what many of us crave. Someone to listen to our story, someone to see us as we are, as a society we are starved for it.
On my personal journey, and for the purposes of the questions I’ve been asking this past week, this quote fits into my women’s circle issues. How to proceed when one figure throws the whole balance off. How can we best help each other? How can we best be there for each other, even when triggered, scared, selfish or insecure. How can we come together when our human is triggered right into judgment? When we’ve forgotten tolerance and the art of allowing.
The answer that came this week was the image of a shipwreck, and the knowing that you can’t help a drowning man unless your own lift-jacket is on and you are secure. It’s imperative to take care of yourself first, or two people will drown.